I asked my friend. What are you insecurities? She looked at me and gave me a list. Then i asked her why she broke up. She said the guy was too insecure.
And this is what a guy responds too when asked about his ex girlfriend.
What i am about to write about now, is not to say that insecuritiea are good and they should be left alone.
I just feel that this thing called “insecurity” is what makes us all human and real, and we should all take a step back to appreaciate that they exist within us. Technically, to embrace our own flaws.
Some of us maybe aware of the insecurities that we are having. They might not be happy about it. Then, good! Make a positive change and work on yourself instead of ruining your own health and self image.
If you are always complaining about your insecurities but you dont make an effort and keep expecting that someone has to compensate for your flaws or behave accordingly to your flaws – then u just feel that this person is really messed up.
Then again, love yourself enough to understand this kind of negative people who dont wish to work on themselves or pretend to work on themselves and deceit the other party’s efforts and trust.
Love is such a misused word in many ways. And insecurities play a huge part in facilitating this misusage. I have no idea what went wrong.
Just because its alright now.. doesnt mean its alright forever. This is crucial in the case of dealing with insecurities.
Why is there even double standards to insecurities? Maybe people expect too much from the other party and negkect what they can offer instead. Thats alright. But the question is.. are they willin to work on their own insecurities before pin pointing the oher person? If one person is working on himself or herself, then the other person can learn from him or her. This is about being positive towards growth and change.
Also, sometimes i do wonder why there is a limit to how much insecurities can people tolerate. And somehow after mucb pondering i think it eventually boils down to how much the person loves the other person. Love is blind. Thats one story. But loving and helping each other to grow and protecying their vulnerabilities is also equally vital. Thats another story.
I think ultimately it boils down to… what we want for ourselves.. what kind of partner we want.. and how we deal with our own insecurities while meeting another person’s insecurity up close. Its a valuable relationship only if we dont deceit and stay true to ourselves.